Now I'm not your natural 'silver lining' sort of person. I have to try really hard to see them, you could say I'm a 'Silver Lining sort of Person'-in training!
I'm listening, I'm looking and I'm learning, I'm spotting them quicker than I used to, but there's still room for improvement!
Most of you who read this blog, will know my Mum has Alzheimers, so what could possibly be the silver lining in that? Now this one has been VERY HARD to find, however when I visited her yesterday, I realise how much I loved visiting not only my Mum, but all the other residences there too. Don't get me wrong if I could give her back her health, I would, in a heartbeat! No question.
She's in a great home, the carers are wonderful. I feel I have 'adopted' lots of elderly relatives! There's Mr B who loves my Mum and is often found sat next to her (he loves a lot of the ladies), there's Mrs S who tells me (lots of times) about her daughter, who lives in Wales. There Mrs C who can get frightened, but who likes me to hold her hand, tell her not to worry, her home is ok, I went to check it this morning. I've checked, it's perfectly ok to go along with their stories.
I've been someone's daughter, wife (!), friend, neighbour....you name it I've taken on that role. The carers don't always have the time to sit, to chat, to hold hands....to have the most bizarre, surreal conversations, but I do.
My Mum brought me this cup a few years ago now, when we went Christmas shopping, she brought one for me, one for her, I have them both now.
She painted this for Little Bea at her pottery class. She loved that class, it was a life saver for her, when my Dad died. She painted lots, we were all a bit worried, if I'm honest, about what we would get next! I wish she was still painting me 'unusual ornaments'!
Yesterday was a day to remember those who have lost their lives in wars and conflict. Lots of you also reflected on loved ones you've lost. At the moment I live in the present with my Mum, sometimes thinking about the past is too painful, after all she's still living and breathing right in front of me, she just can't remember the things I can.
The Government have just launched Dementia Friends. I've signed up, not sure what I can do, until then I'll just keep visiting Mum, and all the other lovely Residences, with a smile on my face, piece of chocolate in my pocket, and a hand to hold, if needed!
Thank you all for your advise over my dilemma! Mr Bea just smiled, one of those 'I know you so well smiles', when I told him! He's actually a very generous person, (partly down to his lack of budget awareness/understanding!). I'm going to write down three small things I would like and he'll surprise me with something!
Well, dear friends, I did upset someone greatly with my magazine antic, personally I can think of worse things to do, I've seen people almost read a magazine from cover to cover then pop it back on the shelf! Anyhow, I've removed the comment, not because I don't think they have the right to think what they want (I'm not a judgemental sort of person!) but because they hid behind 'anonymous'!
Have a great week Everyone!
Ada :) x