Last night, as a family we attended my daughters schools, 'Outstanding Achievements Awards Evening'. The secondary school my daughter attends is a Specialist Performing Arts College, and they hire the local theatre for the evening.
You can just imagine the talent displayed in these evenings, the children were fabulous, there is indeed lots of talent within the school, a very moving evening. A theatre packed with proud parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters.
There were the usual faces, those children I've seen through primary school, getting their awards. They should be proud, their parents should be proud. (When the 'Creative Writing' award was given, Little Bea whispered to me, "That's the one I want Mum"....you know something, I wouldn't be surprised if she did!)
So what award were we waiting for? Dance, Drama? Outstanding achievement in mathematics or science? No, none of them.
I'm not sure if my daughter will ever receive an award at one of these evenings. She quiet, she doesn't speak out. She hasn't learnt that smiling and chatting to your teacher gets you noticed, or that class disruption may get your needs met. No, she sits very still, very quiet. She wants no one to pay her any attention. If she draws attention to herself, if she gets noticed, people will look at her, she hates being looked at.
So my daughter may never get one of those awards, being so quiet, she's often overlooked. It would take a very special teacher to notice her. To realise what she's achieving, it may not be as outstanding as other children, but a huge achievement for her.
So, you may ask, why were we there?
Well, despite her difficulties, despite the fact she HATES being in public view, she sat on that stage, and played four pieces on her clarinet. She may have been part of a concert band, but she did it! Overcame her difficulties!
We were very, very proud parents. And guess what, the band played right at the end.....she had to 'hold her nerves' for almost two hours! I'm not sure I could have done that, are you?
When we collected her from the stage door she was buzzing, so proud of herself. I could hardly contain her! Later as I tucked her up in bed, she beamed at me.
"I'm bouncing with confidence Mum" she said. This is something that rarely happens to her, it's a new feeling. "I'm going to do it again!" Confidence is a good, good feeling isn't it?!
And so Mr Bea and I have our own 'Outstanding Achievement Award' to present, to our Daughter. For Bravery and Overcoming Difficulties. It's a pity those awards aren't actually ever given out!
My confidence is growing too, getting to grips with these crochet pattern, slowly improving! New cushion, you can never have too many of those!
Welcome to those who've just found me, thanks to those who leave your thoughts, who join in with the conversation! Right need to dash, housework to be done, then another concert to attend, Little Bea and a Ukulele. Love it!
Bye for now!
What a wonderful evening. Bet you were so proud of her. xx
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you both.
ReplyDeleteI'm beaming for you all! Tell her that belief in herself is the greatest gift! (Fist punching air) xx
ReplyDeleteI wish you could bottle self belief! :) x
DeleteOh well done, to both your daughter and yourself.
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Oh much happiness to you your gorgeous girl Ada. I so so understand what a momentous occasion this was for you both and your absolute pride as her Mama. The fear of being looked at and noticed is a powerful force that works against my boy too. I will have to wait patiently for my on stage proud mama moment but I do get it in other ways. mel x
ReplyDeleteIt's such a strong aversion, she hates being noticed. Your moment will come, we just have to wait a little longer! :) x
DeleteJust wonderful! I love the ukulele. xo
ReplyDeleteAnother moving post Ada, what a wonderful achievement for little B and how proud you both must be. I know how nerve racking it is to wait for hours to go on stage and perform, so little B needs to be super proud if herself. I'm so happy that its given her some confidence and the fact that she loves it and wants more. It's all so very positive and deserving of the highest reward. I bet you don't need no shoulder pads today :-) xoxo
ReplyDeleteShe loved the feeling afterwards! :) x
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ReplyDeleteWonderful, wonderful girl!! Such a breakthrough moment for her. I'm so glad that she was able to keep her fears at bay and perform on stage in front of the audience. You must've been as nervous as she while waiting for her to perform. She really does deserve a special acknowledgement and award! I love the clarinet ... my daughter also played the clarinet in high school, but the only time she would let us hear her was at the performances (she was too shy to play it at home!). Enjoy your day Ada, and give your daughter a hug from me ;) Wendy
ReplyDeleteOh bless her, you must be very very proud and I'm so glad she felt so confident in herself. I'm sure it's something she will remember for years to come. Maybe you could have a special family awards evening, get a takeaway or cook something treaty and then take it in turns to award each other for extra effort or for doing simple things that have made each others lives easier. xx
ReplyDeleteI think that's a great idea! :) x
DeleteHow wonderful for her, and how wonderful for you and your family! Music is a fantastic way to gain confidence, be part of a group, and enjoy expression through an instrument - I'm sure her joy will continue to grow. She wouldn't have been able to hold her nerves without your support, so pat yourself on the back! Cx
ReplyDeleteYay for her. We have a very shy 6 year old who we chose to send to a very small primary school in the hope it would help build her confidence, last week she stood up and did some French for her class assembly. It's amazing how they can grow in the right environment x
ReplyDeleteBless her! You must have been bursting! :) x
DeleteOh this is such a sweet moment of victory for you all. Made me feel proud of your gorgeous girl x Yay for confidence xxx Penny
ReplyDeletehow wonderful she had a great experience! makes all the difference. I like the new crochet, looks promising! I would quite like to see that book too! Heather x
ReplyDeleteA big congratulations to your daughter. I can rarely sit through any school thing without getting choked up! If it's any help to know, I bet there are teachers out there who would definately notice your daughters acheivements (i.e. noticing the quiet ones). Flissx
ReplyDeleteI'm sure there are, we had some great primary school teachers, it's more remote at secondary school! :) x
DeleteTears have sprung to my eyes reading this Ada! What a very special little girl ...
ReplyDeleteLove Claire xxx
Oh, this makes me smile from the inside out. Cheers to her. She deserves a huge round of applause and congratulations. May her accomplishment and well deserved feelings of pride continue to grow and bloom. What a trooper.
ReplyDeleteI do hope so Ellen, thank you! :) x
DeleteWhat a wonderful evening for you all. I bet you shed a little tear ... I always do :)
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Loved reading that post, read it to my hubby (a teacher) and he was touched too. Well done to your amazing daughter, she sounds like a star :) xx
ReplyDeleteThat's lovely to hear. I have very mixed feelings about awards ceremonies. Prizes always seem to go to the same few stars, and I think that quieter and less prominent people can often be just as (if not more) interesting and talented.
ReplyDeleteMe too, for the same reasons :) x
DeleteThat's wonderful. You absolutely should be proud of her, she is shining in her own way.
ReplyDeleteOh bless her, I just want to reach out and give your daughter a huge hug and tell her well done - you really must be feeling proud! This is really poignant to me, as it sounds so much like my middle daughter, we have had so many tears over the last week, about the year 2 school leavers concert and how she is just a background dancer again ... poor thing, she would dearly love to have a main part, but she is quiet, unassuming, not troublesome, and keeps her head down, so also usually gets overlooked, if only she would be given the chance to show what she's made of ...
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I know it seems so unfair, I hope your daughter has a staring role soon! :) x
DeleteAmazing ... what a brave girl ... not sure I could hold my nerve ... I'm not surprised you and Mr Bea are so proud of her ... Bee xx
ReplyDeleteoh that is wonderful - I bet you are so proud!
ReplyDeleteYou have every reason to be proud of your girl:) We don't have such awards at school in my country, but I guess they are both good and bad...
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely story and a lovely moment - definitely something to celebrate ;)
ReplyDeleteQuiet achievers rule the world. I have two quiet achievers and as you say it does take a special teacher to notice. However it is the unwavering love and support of parents that count for everything at the end of the day. Your daughters will fly in their own way and the mother hen will be there to notice as she is the only one who knows the strength it takes.
ReplyDeleteLove this ode to your lovely family. :-)
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Thank you Mariette! :) x
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such an achievement, they say music is a great way of communicating and certainly the clarinet is a lovely instrument to play, encourage her all you can every step forward is a step in the right direction
ReplyDeleteBrilliant, Ada, simply brilliant! WHat an achievement, and your hearts must be bursting with pride and delight - and rightly so.
ReplyDeleteSomewhat saddened that within the school there isn't someone with the gift and talent to 'spot' the efforts and contributions of the shy, retiring child. And that kind of makes her achievement all the more spectacular!! Well done, and Little Bea, follow your mum's example and that ward is bound to be yours, some day! Lxx
Thanks Lynne, it does seem a shame but then we live in a world where the confident people seem to have the success! :) x
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Oh Ada, you should feel proud, I feel proud for you! Your daughter did a brave and wonderful thing. I am so, so pleased for you and your family. xx
ReplyDeleteBig cheers and an enormous well done to your daughter Ada. Sometimes we can take such tiny tiny steps towards something enormous happening that no one noticed we were building towards it. She's obviously been doing a lot inside that has made her feel secure enough to take that leap. I can imagine you getting very emotional as any parent would. Big hugs. X
ReplyDeleteooo goodness. on a difficult morning that has already seen tears here this is just what i needed to read and now happy tears!!! xxx
ReplyDeleteGlad to help! :) x
Deletemagic!!...for the night to have such a wonderful effect on her is pure magic! well done sweetheart!! x
ReplyDeleteYour happy pride just oozes from the page here ... well done to your brave, clever girl xxx
ReplyDeleteThank you Annie, it's when you know how difficult things can be for them, others don't always see this. I'm very proud of her :) x
DeleteI'm so happy for her huge milestone.....I don't have a clan of award given children but there tops with me too! Heidi
ReplyDeleteYour daughter sounds lovely Ada! Congrats to you both! 💕
ReplyDeleteSuch a beautiful event for all of you, thank you for sharing this, just warms my heart to no end thinking of your precious daughter and her confidence! I love your pictures and stories, and really appreciate the blessing of sharing life's road! Much happiness to you all!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to your daughter, well done her. Also well done you, I know how you feel I've just mastered granny squares with the help of bloggers and youtube tutorials.
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Peg xx
Big "thumbs up!" to your daughter-as a music teacher I can vouch for her confidence and sense of achievement that all her hard work practising at home and rehearsing with the band has had such positive results! luckily, in my subject, I can find ways for everyone to find something they can do well and share it -even the very few tone deaf ones are usually good at rhythms or songwriting! Music always finds a way to weave its magic!
ReplyDeleteSO wonderful!!! Congrats to your daughter, and can feel your pride all the way down here in Tassie! Mel xxx
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful achievement, you must be very proud!
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