Saturday, 7 December 2013

Perfection May Be Closer Than You Think......

 

 
 
Can I tell you about My Most Perfect Day? The best day......ever.....?!! Is that ok, do you want to hear all about it?
 
Are you sitting comfortably? Then I will begin......
 
 
 
 
I woke this morning, feeling a little tired its been a full on week at work but it's the weekend, and we've lots of fun things to look forward too.
 
After a leisurely breakfast, Mr Bea and I start to tackle the housework. We don't go mad, just a general tidy up, we're having guests and I'm eager to show off our Christmas tree! I want everything to look Christmas Cosy!
 
 
 
My Mum, Dad, Sisters and their families will be over later, bit of an early Christmas tea, we will be together on Christmas Day but often get together to share a meal together.
 
Mums been swooning over my Lampshade Christmas Tree, I've been secretly making one for her.....I can't wait to see her face! I love to share my crafts with her. Dad will probably have a little bit of a moan, they've only got a small flat but he loves Christmas, and he loves me, so he will easily be won around!
 
 
 
I've just finished making my sisters some Pom Pom garlands too, I've become addicted to making them!
 
Suddenly I realise the time, so quickly go into the kitchen to prepare our meal. I've not gone crazy, we have some lovely treats and a couple of good bottles of wine to drink. I've never gone mad on the catering, as long as we have enough I'm happy, I hate food wastage, especially when there are so many starving people in the world. I don't really have a food budget, and it seems ludicrous to me that I might one day have to save up, to put on a feast like this.
 
 
 
 
Mr Bea goes to pick up the girls. Eldest Bea has gone into town with friends, to try on the latest fashions no doubt, perhaps buy a few Christmas presents. She's doing what most teenagers do, no sensory issues, no concept of what it's like to be Autistic.
 
Little Bea has been to her dance classes, she has a part in the Christmas show so everything's stepped up a little, with extra rehearsals. Occasionally I will have a little moan about the cost of the lessons, how expensive it is to buy the show costumes, just like the other mums do, but she's a natural entertainer.....and isn't that what parents are supposed to do? Encourage their children, we can afford it, so we do.
 
 
 
It's starting to get dark when everyone seems to arrive at once, lots of laughter, lots of hugs, lots of chatter......eating and drinking. The girls busily telling their grandparents about their day. A few tears shed when Mum is presented with her Christmas tree! She's always so emotional!
 
We have a quick chat about where we would like to go next year for our holiday, we always book a cottage by the sea, all together. Lyme Regis this year we think!
 
As the wine flows we start to discuss what we'd do with a lottery win, it's always the same, usually starting off with an idea from Dad.....he loves this game.......
 
 
I don't want to win the lottery.
 
What I would like is this Perfect Day. A day where my parents were here, so I could give my dad the biggest bear hug ever, where we had no understanding of the heartbreak that Alzheimer's brings. One where I was full of energy, where I could work full time......so I could put on these feasts, and where paying for dance lessons isn't given a second thought. A day where my eldest daughter could go into town, with her friends and try on the latest fashions, and not feel overwhelmed by her senses.
 
Hold tight to what you have, it might just be your Perfect Day.
 
 
Have a lovely weekend,
 
Bye For Now,
 
 
Ada :) xxx
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

65 comments:

  1. A beautiful thought provoking post. I really enjoyed reading it.

    Have a wonderful weekend. :)

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  2. Absolutely perfect and lovely that you have been able to recognise and appreciate it x Jane

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  3. Beautifu post I enjoyed reading x

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  4. Absolutely beautiful. And the tree is genius.

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  5. You have expressed yourself so beautifully here and I am just a bit teary-eyed.
    For what it is worth, sending loving thoughts your way, Dear Ada Bea.

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  6. Love all your Christmas decorations!! Wishing you a lovely and crafty weekend! And, may you have many perfect days ahead Ada! xo Heather

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  7. Love your lamp shade Christmas tree, this will be my second year of having a lamp tree, hope to get some photos up this week. Full of Christmas cold at rabbit house lane.

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  8. I just love your Christmas tree!!! It's really original

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  9. I get it. It's a tough time of year. I sometimes pretend to have a telephone call with my Mum! It's a life line isn't it. I hope things flow more easily for you soon, Heather X

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  10. miss Ada Bea that is exactly what Christmas spirit is , right there. Sadly it often takes adversity to make us humans realize what really matters but being human we can learn no other way. Merry Christmas to you and your lovely family.

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  11. This is a beautiful post. A lovely reminder for us to be grateful for what we have especially for our families. Thank you!
    Marion x

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  12. What a wonderful post bringing together the juggling of keeping life going while managing the additional difficulties diagnoses bring to life. Sending you much love for what is a thought provoking post about valuing the here and now.

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  13. It is a stressful time of year, full of happiness in abundance but also all those other emotions in abundance, too. I'm sorry that your perfect day seems out of reach, but hang another bauble on that fabulously wacky tree and give yourself a hug for finding bright colours and creativity and decorations and fun in spite of the challenges that can seem just too much to bear sometimes. Thinking of you and sending you a big supportive hug, Chrissie xxx

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  14. 1. Your tree is beautiful! Any Mum would love to receive one of these, and you are so talented to have made this.
    2. I hope that you have a perfect day some day soon. Perhaps not this day, but one that is good for you.
    3. Love and hugs to you. xx

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  15. How do you write such sensitive posts? Your perfect day is so much more perfect than you think :) Love to know what happened when your mom saw her craft tree!

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    1. Hi Sweetie, this day is only in my imagination now, my mum has Alzheimer's and doesn't know what's happening around her anymore, she would have loved the tree though :) x

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  16. A beautifully written reminder to appreciate those we love and to cherish family times....thank you Ada.
    Hope you are coping O.K at this emotional time of year.
    Jacquie x

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  17. so true..needed to read this my darling xxx

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  18. oh my, these words are so honest, so hard and you've told us about your feelings very well Ada…
    love and hugs, xxxxx Ale

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  19. A perfect day indeed for you to cherish. Love the lamshade tree. What a great idea.
    Jacqui x

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  20. yes Ada you have so much to be thankful for and what a lovely get together with the family. Your Mum`s face must have been a picture when you gave her the tree, wonderful

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    1. It would have been Margaret, she would have loved it :) x

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  21. Very thought-provoking, thank you Ada. x

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  22. Love your tree Ada... yes I find this time of the year very challenging... every time I do manage to go out I'm asked constantly what I'm planning for christmas... and I'm at a loss whether to be truthful or tell an imaginary beautiful tale... Hugs to you X

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  23. So Lovely.. It was such an inspiring and perfect day.. Love the lampshade christmas tree so so much :)

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  24. Beautiful and moving post Ada.

    Much love to you and yours, Helenxx

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  25. I am sure your Mum is going to love hers!! How lovely. We have all been swooning over it on Instagram and I am sure it will bring you lots of smiles over the next three weeks. It sure is beautiful. Your lights and mantelpiece is looking just perfect now, no more spaceship taking off! xoxo

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  26. What a beautiful beautiful post ..... your mum will treasure her tree!
    Treasure each and every moment x
    love jooles xxx

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  27. Well, that does sound lovely. Thank you for sharing.

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  28. Hello again Ada, I've linked to your moving post today....I do hope that's alright.
    Jacquie xxx

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  29. What a special post - sending love and peace to you xxx

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  30. How I wish for you ..... That perfect day. Hold tight,as tight to your memories and may hey bring comfort to you and your family.

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  31. Lovely Ada
    A really beautiful and heart felt post. So difficult at times and how easy is it to forget about our blessings that we have. Sending you love and big hugs at this difficult time of the year. Your tree is looking rather groovy by the way x take care lovely xxxx

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  32. So very true a beautiful piece of writing.
    Clare x
    http://summerhousebythesea.blogspot.co.uk/

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  33. Such an emotional piece of writing and so much true.We tend to forget how lucky we are and how greatful we should fell each and every day. Thanks for reminding us today. Hugs,Angie***

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  34. Your perfect day sounds wonderful. I'm sorry that it is a just a wish. I know how positive you can be, and hope you can still find a perfect moment in each day.
    Sarah x

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  35. Such a lovely post. You have caused me to stop and think and be grateful for many things. Thank you.

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  36. My mom has this dreaded diagnosis. I thought I was out of tears, but you have nailed the emotions completely. My hopeful wishes for your family---may you look for some happy memories for comfort. Thanks for this post---found you while reading Bunnymummy post. Blessings to you Ada & may the Christmas spirit come into your heart!! Love Judy

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  37. We have had an early Christmas celebration as one daughter is going to Oz for Christmas. I always feel a bit sad when they all go off to their own homes at the end of a family get together silly really, but it makes me think of my own parents who aren't with us anymore x

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  38. Lovely post! I have come from Bunny Mummy, as she said how much she enjoyed it! I did as well.
    xo Kris

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  39. Your perfect day sounded just that, full of the things that matter. It is sad life can't be like it is in our imaginations, but treasure those memories and continue to channel that love to your nearest and dearest and in what you create because that is the thing that really matters. Sending you warm thoughts and energy, take care of yourself too Elaine x

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  40. What a moving piece, I have a lump in my throat. I love your display with the crochet thread what a fabulous idea. Im going to use some of my colourful balls and add them to the tree it will look like baubles.

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  41. Indeed, we should learn from 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'.
    Keep wearing those positive pants. xx

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  42. Beautiful words, you are right we should always be grateful for what we have and treasure it.

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  43. Dearest Ada, What a wonderfully written post!!! You brought a tear to my eye!!! So many of us would love to have that perfect day!!! My hubby's parents died nearly 40 years ago, round about this lime of the year and still he would do anything to have that perfect day!!! Have a wonderful week!!!
    Love
    |AMarie

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  44. I shed a little tear as I read this, very close to my own heart,
    Hugs my dear.

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  45. Just such a perfect post. Life has its hardships and sometimes we do wish it was easier. Christmas is always tinged with a little sadness as this was the time my Grandad died and Christmas is not the same anymore. How I would love to give him a huge hug now. Take care. xx

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  46. Lovely and strong post. Health in our family is the most blessed gift one can have, doesn´t it? I hope the Christmas spirit be with you all.

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  47. I'm here from Bunny Mummy, too. Such a sweet and loving post--my tears are falling, actually, but that is so much better than blocking out the memories to avoid the pain. What a gift you've given to us all, and I know the loving kindness will come back to you. A virtual hug from Kate in Oregon

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  48. A lovely post Ada. If it's not possible to have all that you wish for your perfect day, I do hope you can achieve some of it.

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  49. Oh Ada, this made me feel so sad. I am sorry you wont be having your perfect day but I VERY much hope you'll create something nearly perfect. You have a magical way of spinning love and creativity around you, making those you love happy, and I am sure you'll find something pretty close to perfection there.

    I don't want a lottery win either (just a job would be nice!) but yes, it's good to stop and count out blessings. Much love to you. xx

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  50. I am so sad that your perfect day cannot be a reality, but I do hope that you have many perfect days in your memory bank and also that you have many more to come. Life can be hard. I am going through a horrible time at the moment - our trip you commented on was a desperate bid for us to escape, and escape we did for a while. Hold your family close to you. M xx

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  51. A perfect day is about accepting and appreciating all we have, while putting the things we don't have on the back burner. You don't need much to have a good Christmas. If you are alone spoil yourself, you deserve it. If you are missing family, be close to those you do still have around you. If you have little money be glad that you are luckier than many who do not get decent meals on any day. If you have no presents then appreciate that there are things that we can still have. The Christmas atmosphere is free for everyone, so are walks in the park in the fresh crisp air and enjoying Christmas lights and singing carols. Indoors is cosy and makes us feel safe and secure, how lucky we are to have homes if we do. Also books from the library that help us celebrate the season, festive television, crafts and so on. The most important gift we can give is that of time. At Christmas most of us usually have that.

    No one is currently working here (daughter got interview though so fingers crossed), this will be our third year without presents and no we don't mind. We do get to have Christmas dinner. We do get to have a tree complete with memories tied up with the decorations. We do get to relax and feel the Christmas magic and be together. Things are harder for some people, without a doubt and all who have good health have already won the lottery. Even so, good things can still happen even if life doesn't seem and often isn't fair. There is just us two. It has been that way a long time. We learnt to enjoy our Christmas and make them special but a long time ago I used to have some tears too. This one will hopefully be a peaceful and happy one. I hope yours will be too. Nothing ever is perfect but many things are well enough. Christmas is for everyone.

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    1. You are absolutely right, I'm getting there Sweetheart, fingers crossed for your daughters interview! :) x

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  52. What a lovely present for your dear Mother -no wonder she loved it! I count my blessings every day that my family and friends are happy and healthy

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  53. I am not a reader of your blog but my wife sent me the link after a dream I had.
    It is Christmas and my mother is organising the campaign...advising on presents...adding small thoughtful items. She is full of energy and Christmas spirirt, smiling and loving, comforting.
    But then I suddenly see her sitting and staring blankly and I remember...she has been struck with Alzheimer's and doesn't remember me.
    And then I wake up and realise that she had been dead for some years now. The dream has left an ache and your blog reminds people what is important about Christmas

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    1. I might not know you but I completely understand, take care :) x

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  54. What a beautiful post. It took me a while to understand that it was a dream day; a day of memories past. I am sitting here with tears running down my eyes grateful for my little boy, my husband, brother and parents. Thank you. xxx

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  55. Thank you for a beautiful post, Ada and for baring your soul. Wishing you many blessings. A cherished older very wise advisor tells me there is much grace flowing in the darkness. I don't fully understand that but it gives me courage and hope when I am down. Your creations are beautiful, unique, whimsical and inspiring. Andrea

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